My wife gives me hell when you leave the toilet seat up... so STOP leaving the toilet seat up!!
I'm going to be quite direct. Please don't be offended...
I don't know your fiscal nor your spousal situation. I only know mine. I'm no longer married but if I was I wouldn't hide anything from her. Lack of trust is the number one cause of friction in, and ending of, relationships whether that be financially or fidelity related. Once trust is damaged it never fully recovers.
It's all about compromise from both parties. My marriage was a fiasco. I ended up selling every single thing I enjoyed... my audio equipment, my guns, all my camera gear... everything... because my wife found them inconvenient to her. I bought her many different pricey hobby tools over the years and funded all the materials she needed for them. I had nothing. Above all else I valued being a husband and father but there was virtually nothing else of me left. In retrospect I should have been a stronger man and insisted on compromise.
Hiding things and lying/keeping secrets is not the adult way to handle it. Open dialog and finding a center ground for you "both" to stand on is the only proper option. Find the strength to be a man but don't be an overbearing ogre.
Maybe a bit harsh but truth often is.
Last edited by Old-N-Feeble; 11-24-2012 at 12:17 PM. Click to view previous post history.
It sounds as though you already have several cameras. I suggest you enjoy using those while you wait for the baby, and then see how things pan out financially with the baby before you commit yourself to the care and feeding of a Hassie. Babies and Hasselblads are both expensive...
Depends on whether you genuinely feel that you're doing the right or wrong thing. If your financial position means you don't need the money, then get the camera and be honest about it. If you really should keep the money for more important things, do that.
Submitting to a nag is a bad thing, as it only encourages the behaviour. However, being an irresponsible partner is bad too, and you should just think clearly about what is happening here.