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    I know this is only a forum but this entire thing seems a bit shady to me. Why hide it from your wife? Does she hide things from you? I would personally recommend having a discussion with your wife, explaining why you need it and listening to her reasoning about why this is not a good purchase for you? At least then everything is on the table. Maybe you really don't need it, or maybe you should agree to sell something else to help you raise the money to purchase it.

    Don't get me wrong, my wife and I don't always agree on these things either. I bought an M6 a while back that she was not in favor of, and still isn't. I already owned several nice rangefinders and she could not understand why I needed this one. Actually she was right. I really don't need it, but I do enjoy working with it. However, it was not a surprise when it arrived. I agreed to sell a couple other things to help defray the cost and, though she still is a little irked over it, she accepts that I wanted it and didn't blow the rent money buying it.

    Obviously this is only my own opinion and everyone else is perfectly welcome to completely ignore it if you want. The fact that my wife and I have been happily married for 39 years should in no way effect your decision.

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    Pioneer, my girl friend thinks that it is great that I enjoy photography. Her attitude is that if I want something, will use it and enjoy it, then I should get it. She gets excited, in a good way, when I get more Hasselblad equipment. We have been together for 12 years without ever having a fight. Small wonder.
    Warning!! Handling a Hasselblad can be harmful to your financial well being!

    Nothing beats a great piece of glass!

    I leave the digital work for the urologists and proctologists.

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    Sometimes it seems that we may be the lucky ones Sirius Glass. I do sometimes feel a bit sorry that some who enjoy photography don't also seem to enjoy the full support of their partners. As for the fights, well I can't say we have never had a disagreement or two. But so far we have always been able to sort it out.

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    To be honest, I can relate to your situation. I also have gone through the acquisition phase of both children and cameras. My solution was to focus on my family (first responsibility!), while exploiting every opportunity I could get to earn some income from my photography. On average I pocket about $1500 to $2000 per year from photographic work. It is not much, but it means I can buy my gear without having to "steal" from the family finances. I also do a lot of bargain hunting, and only buy when I am sure of an absolute bargain, i.e. I could sell it for the same price or better if I had to in a pinch. Children are small only once for a very short time, but used cameras will always be there. You may later regret not focusing your devotion on your child when it is still small. I never regret a missed "bargain", because there are always more of them.

    How sure are you that you need a Hasselblad per se? I mean, there are other options too, like a 645 system or perhaps Pentax or Mamiya 6x7 systems as well. They are generally more affordable. I got a Mamiya RZ Pro II with 110/2.8 lens, two film backs, extension tube and a few other minor accessories, for $500, and I have taken beautiful photographs of my children with it. That has pleased my wife to the point where she now lives quite happily under one roof with the Mamiya. In her office hangs a darkroom print of each of our children, and in our house there are plenty more. The point is that if you get the MF camera, you also have to produce something with it, that either you get paid for, or that contributes to decorating your home. I don't think your wife could have much of an issue with it then.

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    according to my wie, the best way to hide it is to put it into your coat sleeves and yhen putting it into the closet. now, i have to go up and see what she is hiding from me.
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    I never hide a camera, usually tell her than I'm going to buy one (or one lens, or whatever). She usually disagrees, as she thinks I should be able to do everything with one camera and one lens.

    On the long term, I'm not sure she's wrong, but she would not agree on the camera I'd keep : my most essential one is the Rolleiflex, while she thinks the EOS3 "she" bought me (the one we bought while agreeing about buying it) is the only one I should need...

    Of course, I usually get the "silent treatment" when she strongly disagrees (she kept "not knowing" about the Yashica Mat 124 for one year :-D )
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    Quote Originally Posted by Laurent View Post
    Of course, I usually get the "silent treatment" when she strongly disagrees (she kept "not knowing" about the Yashica Mat 124 for one year :-D )
    Women think that they are punishing their husbands by applying the "silent treatment", but most husbands consider the "silent treatment" a blessing.
    Warning!! Handling a Hasselblad can be harmful to your financial well being!

    Nothing beats a great piece of glass!

    I leave the digital work for the urologists and proctologists.

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    My girlfriend (no wife but we have been together for 14 years, so practically a wife) photographs herself and I have brought her stuff. But once I brought a LPL/Saunders 4x5 enlarger and did not tell her. I would not say I really hide stuff from her, not in the real sence of hiding, but we men do like to go discussions out iof the way. That is just the way we usually are. That is the thing which women tend not to understand. I hope I am allowed to write this without someone cutting my head off. Anyway my girlfriend has never mentioned a word about the enlarger, and it is stored right next to our bed.
    Mmm... it makes me wonder?!?

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    If you think you can hide something from your wife, you must be newly married.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sirius Glass View Post
    Women think that they are punishing their husbands by applying the "silent treatment", but most husbands consider the "silent treatment" a blessing.
    They like sleeping on the sofa too. It's just like going camping!


    Steve.

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