Still, and I know this to be politically incorrect, Brian and Suzanne, but lack of correct and private disclipline with children is one of the core causes of adult immaturity and inability to be able to exercise responsibility in later life. Today, children are 'consulted'. True, my own father 'ordered' for sake of ordering but, compared to today's 'must feel good in order to develop self-esteem' garbage, I would rather the extreme in the other direction if it came down to that. If I had kids you would be sure that they: received much love and nurturing, but you could be as sure that they would not 'call the shots' and there would be no excuses made. It's rather amazing how Oriental children are usually invested with this forbearance. I wonder why?!?!
Including children so that they feel significant is one thing. That is something that I do wish my father had done. But including them to the point whereby their thoughts, suddenly and miraculously, become equivalent with adult decisions, negating the wisdom continuum, becomes fatuous, foolhardy, and provides a foundation for obstinance and lack of consideration for others. I truly believe that we humans must 'earn' credibility and stature in life, instead of simply giving it to children simply because we wish to make them feel Oh so good. Self-esteem is not as important as we, collectively, make it out to be. Doing what is right, morally and ethically, becomes paramount, even if it causes tears. - David Lyga
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