Sorry, Katie, I do not fully embrace you. Perceived 'entitlement' is really the problem here. (and, no, I am not a Republican). I have traveled throughout Europe, Mexico, and Canada, and state openly and without equivocation, that kids in the USA are whinning much more, louder, and less considerate than their counterparts elsewhere.
Again, the core problem stems from letting them get away with whatever makes them feel good. We simply do not wish to 'disappoint' the little darlings and, if they are physically cute, so the more we do not wish to disappoint them. That is truly ridiculous. A physically 'ugly' kid is just as worthy of nurturing and respect as one who fulfulls our idiotic 'Hollywood' paradigm. But we need to counteract the 'swift disclipline' with also letting them know that they are, indeed, important and not merely a vehicle 'created to follow orders'. That does not necessarily mean explaining each and every countering action we take but it does mean that family time (regardless whether husband & wife or two queer parents, it makes no difference) must include them at least some of the time. Barking orders for the sake of dictatorial control is a fault of faulty parenting. You get what I mean.
I will not back from that assessment and the only person who can 'dissuade' me is the Moderator, with his potent DELETE button. I am not trying to 'flame' but, rather, stick to my guns. You are all good, caring people but I feel that some of your thinking is on the wrong track. I really am sick and tired of parents implicating that tantrums and such are 'normal' and must be both expected and accepted. Even at three years old kids can be taught forbearance. They do not have to be continually treated like precious entities that must not, never, ever, be 'hurt' with words they do not wish to hear. If I had a child dart out into traffic you can bet your ass that his ass would be red, immediately and even swiftly. And, yes, Brian, I DID have tantrums but those tantrums were quickly extinquished, without 'apology'.
And, Brian, I canot say "AMEN" to Katie's response because I am agnostic. Please forbear. - David Lyga
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