Use your hands, no gloves. Of course with all photog a wash of hands before. You will learn to touch the sides of the film. After tons o rolls, you might touch the middle of the film, very rarely....
I think, like Leigh does, getting yourself in the dark turns on your "other seeing" ability and your touch takes over so intently you "feel your way" through it all. If you get in a jam, put the film back in the light tight tank, put on the lights, walk alway, stay calm...come back ready to do it....zen and the art of film loading.
Of all the processes of developing, the dark room load is my fav!