To each their own. I disagree with you. It's my opinion that if you are a beginner, which the OP is, and if you're not happy with how your prints turn out, then selenium toning isn't going to save you. It makes a pretty small difference compared to learning proper technique, I.e. 'learning how to print', and if you don't learn how to print, no toning in the world is going to help you.
Toning, to me, is a fine tune adjustment that you apply once you've learned to achieve good tonality in the print, something the OP has admitted not being capable of yet.