I know her husband and is a higher ranking officer and I can say with 100% certainty that whatever photos she sends will only be seen by him.
And a little off the subject.... I've been deployed 4 times to Iraq. I can't count the number of times we've had muslim men come up to us begging for a copy of Maxim, FHM, playboy or anything that showed skin. When we gave it to them they smiled and were genuinely happy and excited. That being said we were always "warned" about possible dangers by random notes passed to our interpreter from these people.
We are going to go ahead and shoot this week.
You had already made your mind up to shoot these pictures before you asked the question, why are you wasting the members of this forums time ?