IMO Woman want to look good for the benefit of their own vanity and especially insecurity, not "for men". They certainly don't wear high heels out of generosity toward men (who normally don't care a fig about heels, and care about other stuff, for which many woman are not just as generous ).
I think it was Schiller who said something like: "Men desire woman; woman desire men's desire".
You seem to have some kind of a feminist bias. Don't worry. Certainly some black slaves were pro-slavery, after all