Surprise: A lot of of men give up on learning more when faced with various aspects of photography.
Also, it is not "chickening out" to choose to use only natural light. I use only natural light for the vast majority of my images, and I choose to use it because it creates a look that I want for my photographs. Flash has its place, and more so than in the past, but it's still unusual for me to use it. I have friends who use flash a lot and it suits their work well.
Everything you said applies as much to men as it does to women. That you are unaware of your own condescension is both unsurprising and revealing.