I don't expect the resolution of 35mm film to match current ffDSLRs and I don't care for it.
My reason for shooting film is to get both a toe and a shoulder in the response curve. The tonality and dynamic range of film in the highlights is what I expect.
The grainyness and how sharp the photo is secondary to emotion, composition and content. Most of the time sharpness interferes with abstraction.
I don't care to experiment with developers. If I need grain, I use D76 straight. If I need it smoother, I dilute 1:2 or 1:4. I also use HC110 because it stores nicely, but I don't like it as much.
If I need something sharp and detailed, I use medium format.
I'm probably missing out, but I can't bring myself to test different developers in a consistent manner.