I think one of the reasons this bokeh stupidity annoys me so is my use of large format. When your standard lens is 300 or 360mm, you have to work to place the plane of focus where it belongs. Using a 300mm lens, standard on 8x10, f:32 gives about the same DoF as f:5.6 on a 50mm standard lens with 35mm. F:1.4 translates to about f:8 on the 300, which is generally considered by most experienced LF user to be unuseably shallow DoF for most scenes.
On the positive side, LF lenses are "straight" lenses, no telephoto or retrofocal jiggery-pokery is applied except for some few extreme WA designs. This helps give them a smoother rendering of OOFAs.
And if you want to see what beautiful rendering of OOFAs is all about, pick up a 100 year old Dagor and use it a f:22. Smoothness that tiny format lenses can only fantasize about...