I have stayed at the same place that Reggie described and I can't think of the name but it's close to Galleries and the main street.
Absolutely don't miss going to Point Lobos. If you don't plan to go there then don't even bother going to Carmel. It's just south of Carmel, very close and is undescribable. If you drive down the coast highway you will see the Pigeon Point Lighthouse about half way down.
Did I mention the Redwood National Park? Missing that would almost be a crime. Trees as old as time, BC; enough said.